Wednesday 5 November 2014

Tatoos

Hello everyone and welcome to Real Womans Words on this cold clear November day.  We are super lucky to have the words of budding author Sophie Jonas-Hill, who is imparting her wisdom by a somewhat autobiographical gem regarding her tatoos. Lovely.
I hope that wherever you are and whatever you are up to the world is being kind to you and you to it, and in your busy schedules if you have 500 or so words to share then let me know. You are also invited to share the blog through twitter, the more women who share wisdom the better.

with grateful thanks
Dee





 Tatoos by Sophie Jonas-Hill   



            You all know each other, dont you?Im in Chelsea Town Hall at an antique fair, being sold a deep blue evening dress. The woman selling it had been looking at my tattoos as if shed just lifted up her watering can and seen an unexpected toad. Now shes seen someone else, a hipster looking at vintage items on the next stall, one arm tattooed shoulder to wrist.
            Who knows each other?I ask.
            You people with tattoos,she says.
            Im looking at myself in her mirror, zipped into the dress with its billowing skirts. I catch her eye in the looking glass.
            Oh yes,I say. We all know each other.
            Oh,she says, do you?as if shes a little alarmed to have her assertions confirmed.
            Yes,I say, its because of the meetings, you see.
            Shes been trying to convince me the dress once belonged to Wallace Simpson. It didnt, otherwise I wouldnt have been able to zip it up. Its not even Wallace blue.
            What meetings?she asks, tweaking at the back of the gown.
            When you get tattooed, you get onto the list,I tell her. Once a year, you get the invite. You dont have to go, but well, its a night out, you know?
            I don't know why I want the dress, other than I do. It has huge skirts and smells of damp and old perfume. Ive no where to wear it to, other than dancing round my bedroom, but then lets not discount that as a reason. The woman looks at the hipster as he picks up a vintage telescope.
            Where are the meetings held?she asks, leaning closer to me.
            The New forest,I tell her. At midnight.
            Midnight?She glances at the hipster. Perhaps thats why he wants the telescope,she hisses. Star gazing.
            I expect so,I say. What were you saying about the dress?
            She tells me that the story is, that Wallace Simpson came to stay at a house party at her great Aunts.
            She brought five cases, five, each full to the brim. At dinner she was being bright and charming, when suddenly the butler came and whispered that there was a telephone call for her. She got up and went into the hall, and everyone tried not to listen, then she simply never came back.
            Never came back?
            It was him, you know.The woman winks at me. He called and she answered, just ran upstairs to change and pack and was gone. But she left the dress behind, and never sent for it.
            I imagine the dress hanging in a closet, waiting and waiting for Wallace Simpson to no avail, jus as the woman is imagining all us tattooed people, dancing in the New forest.
            Is there really a secret meeting?she asks.
            Is this Wallace Simpsons dress?We smile at each other.
            No, I didnt buy it, but I like to think she took the plunge. Ill look out for her at the next meeting.

Wednesday 15 October 2014

Please don’t stop the music



Hello to all of you on this wet and windy October day…..Today’s words of wisdom are welcome whatever the weather, and they hail (forgive the pun) from a wonderful woman whose name is Diane Seaborne. Great name eh? Diane sings….a lot…and she encourages others to sing, by singing she witnesses a change in people that brings them to a more harmonious (sorry no pun intended here either) space within themselves. I know because I have sang with Diane and watched this transformation first hand. Today Diane is sharing with you why she does this, enjoy her words of wisdom and if you would like to share yours just drop me an email at grays100@gmail.com or tweet me @grays100
Dee



Please don’t stop the music 



Music creates a place where you can truly be yourself.  I have loved music since I can’t remember when.  My Mum tells the story of a five year old me that would sing ‘Don’t cry for me Argentina’ word and pitch perfectly.  The surrounding audience of family and friends, were amazed that someone so small could remember all those words and sing so well without accompaniment (there was no karaoke in the 70’s you know!).  For me it was easy and completely natural. Lyrics and melody connected to me in the same way that movement connects to the dancer and colours speak to the artist.  I felt the music through my body and I loved the way it made me feel.  It was as simple as that. 
Since then I have used music to accompany me through the joyous times, the sad times, the tragic times and the frankly ridiculous times.  Each phrase of melody and every line of verse and chorus invited me to feel. That invitation provided a door into or out of the emotions I was experiencing. Those emotions caused me to break, to rejoice, to heal, to cry and to create.  I use music every day to step into a space that allows me to know myself better and to relish in wonderful life I have.

Here are just some of the songs that make up my soundtrack.  What are yours?


Wham Rap – Wham
The Chauffeur – Duran Duran
Out of Space – The Prodigy
You oughta know – Alanis Morrisette
Purple Rain - Prince
Who do you think you are - Spice Girls
Something in the way she moves – The Beatles
Sunshine on a Rainy Day – Zoe
You do something to me- Paul Weller
No Day but Today – Idina Menzel
One Day like this – Elbow
Changing – Sigma and Paloma Faith 

Take a music bath once or twice a week for a few seasons. You will find it is to the soul what a water bath is to the body. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes